Friday, December 31, 2010

"Pretty sad when something all teen males fantasize about happening to them is considered a crime."

This is a typical response to a story linked by Drudge about a mother and daughter who both abused the same teen boy who is now 17 years old (but was 14 when the abuse started):

PHOENIX – The daughter of a county supervisor has been arrested on suspicion of sexual misconduct with the same teenage boy that her mother is accused of sexually abusing over a three-year period, police said Thursday.

Rachel Katherine Brock, 21, was arrested Wednesday on three counts of sexual conduct with a minor and one count of transmitting obscene material as part of an ongoing investigation surrounding her mother, 48-year-old Susan Brock.

Read through the comments. Few of them seemed to consider the abuse a crime, just a privilege that a teen male had two women showing him the ways of the world. However, one commenter, Bill L., made a good point:

Plenty of 14 year-old girls dream of having an older male lover, and would greatly enjoy the experience. Yet society will condemn a male that takes advantage of that fact. Why should the consequences for a woman who violates a 14 year-old boy be any different? I wonder how most of these macho, "he wanted it" posters would feel if their 14 year-old daughter had relations with a 48 year-old man and his 18 year-old son? Would they crow "she wanted it?" Not likely.

It is amazing how few people understand the damage that boys who are abused by women can suffer. However, given how little our society cares about the psychological lives of men in general (and thus, most men and boys don't care either), it's amazing these women were arrested at all.

Update: Robert Stacy McCain has more thoughts on this case.


Monday, December 27, 2010

The Kindle vs. a real book

The other day, I wrote a post about Timothy Ferriss's new book The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman. Glenn and I had both the Kindle edition and the actual book and I read part of it on the Kindle first, then switched to the real book. I must say, I was disappointed to read this particular book on the Kindle. Why?

For many reasons. First, Ferriss's book is huge and feels so substantial that it gave me a sense that I really got a lot for the low cost. The Kindle edition, not so much. Second, in order to use the exercises which are a bit complicated, the reader needs to see the pictures. I was surprised how easy it was to figure out the stretches and exercise moves with the actual book which I could also drop on the floor beside me and flip through the pictures as I did some of the workouts. I can't flip through the Kindle that way. Finally, I like to go back and forth in the book to other chapters quickly, especially when writing about the book in my previous post and it is hard and more cumbersome to do so with a Kindle.

For those of you who are Kindle users, have you had a similar (or different) experience?