Monday, January 30, 2012

The Rage Behind a Woman's Stare

Yes, this is the headline of a Washington Post column (you may need a subscription to view it) about--you guessed it--women who do too much (thanks to the reader who emailed the article):

Like our love, women’s anger — the simmering rage toward our families, our mates and assorted males that can turn even the calmest woman’s expression into The Death Look — is always there. Even when it’s the last thing on our minds....

Surprised by my sudden bitterness, I asked, “Why do we keep doing so much with so little help?” “Because no one else will do it,” Ilena snorted. “Because we can’t live in a house that looks like a cyclone went through it,” I added.

Because we’re the wife, we agreed. The mom. The girl.

Millions of Death-Look-wearing women ask, “What can I do?” yet few embrace the obvious answer: “Stop!” Stop with the cleaning, the arranging, the cheerleading, the shopping, the whole relentless shebang. Some who do stop see their homes’ disarray devolve into a chaos that’s unbearable — for them, not their families..


I wonder what a Male Death Look would look like? A desperate look that says "Stop with the body guarding, fixing the faucet, mowing the lawn, earning much of the living, the light-bulb changing, the honeydo list.... and on and on."

But we'll probably never know because what men do is not valued by most female journalists and the white knight males who support them in their sexism. In addition, men keep their anger against women to themselves as complaining will only serve to get them tagged as a misgogynist or whiner. This needs to change.

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There is a good article (via Instapundit) by James Q. Wilson, author of The Marriage Problem: How Our Culture Has Weakened Families, at the Washington Post on economic inequality and its causes. This statistic caught my eye:
The past three decades have seen significant increases in real earnings for people with advanced degrees. The Bureau of Labor Statistics found that between 1979 and 2010, hourly wages for men and women with at least a college degree rose by 33 percent and 20 percent, respectively, while they fell for all people with less than a high school diploma — by 9 percent for women and 31 percent for men [my emphasis].


Those men who do not have a college degree look to be at a significant disadvantage. Given that fewer men are going to college, I wonder how this will play itself out in the coming decades? Though I notice that the article says "with less than a high school diploma." I wonder if those men with a high school diploma but no college can do okay if they find work in the military or with a vocation.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Is Nagging a Marriage Killer?

Wall Street Journal (via Newsalert):
It's More Common Than Adultery and Potentially As Toxic, So Why Is It So Hard to Stop Nagging?...

Nagging—the interaction in which one person repeatedly makes a request, the other person repeatedly ignores it and both become increasingly annoyed—is an issue every couple will grapple with at some point. While the word itself can provoke chuckles and eye-rolling, the dynamic can potentially be as dangerous to a marriage as adultery or bad finances. Experts say it is exactly the type of toxic communication that can eventually sink a relationship.

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