Thursday, February 21, 2013

For Those Trying to Find my New Blog or Book

Welcome to my old blog at Dr. I have moved to PJ Media and blog here. Just click on the link and you can read more from me on men's issues, psychology, culture and politics. You can also see more at about my upcoming book Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters. It is available for pre-order and comes out in June of 2013. Thanks for stopping by.

Monday, February 13, 2012

New Blog at PJ Media

Hi to all my readers:

I am now a blogger over at and my blog Dr. Helen will be open for business there starting today. This gig with Blogger has been good for the past (almost) 7 years! but it's time to move on. Google has sucked for a while and many of you (including myself) have not been able to get on and comment, have had comments eaten or gotten so frustrated that you have taken to emailing me with comments rather than dealing with the annoyance of blogger.

I will be blogging about the same issues, mainly men's rights, men's issues and psychology etc. I value each of my readers and hope you will join me over there for more of the same. The old archives will stay here for reference.

The new blog is here.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Amy Alkon: "Should Have Known Better Than To Speak My Mind On Politics."

My question to Amy: "Why should you?" You have the right to speak your mind on politics just like anyone else. If people don't want to be your friend because they don't hold the same views, what kind of "friend" could they possibly be?

Wednesday, February 08, 2012

I don't generally take products from publicists who ask me to try one of their products. However, a few weeks ago I was at the computer with my neck and arm aching from clicking the mouse for the hundredth time and I saw an email asking if I would like to try a new pain cream for carpel tunnel, neck and back pain. "Sure," I wrote back and yesterday, a big package of this Topricin Cream arrived in my mailbox.

I read over the literature that accompanied the cream to see what it was made of and checked out the website that stated:
Our patented topical formula aids in the healing process by improving blood flow to the injured tissue and draining toxins and fluids that build up as a result of injury or painful ailments like arthritis. Unlike many other over the counter pain relief creams and medications that just mask symptoms, Topricin® stimulates the body's desire to heal the damage that is causing the pain. Whether for muscle pain, joint pain, soft tissue pain or injury, Topricin® is often the first treatment that doctors, chiropractors and physical therapists recommend.

Okay, it seems safe enough, (I hope!) so I tried some on my neck last night and today and have to say that it does seem to help the pain and I am able to turn my head further than usual. However, I wonder if this is a placebo effect? Does anyone know anything about this stuff or have you tried anything like it? Maybe a better solution would be to stop working on the computer so much and take a walk, of course, but that would make too much sense.

I Hate You, Kelly Donahue

I read a funny book this morning called I Hate You, Kelly Donahue. It looked really dumb but the cover was so interesting that I had to flip through it to see what it was about. It's basically a grown man's journal that reads kind of like a middle school crush on a girl he meets at a new job. The journal is filled with cartoon characters and illustrations of his crush with captions about his thoughts and feelings of "disgust and hate" for her and includes emails from the woman. There are actual pictures of this woman in the book and since this guy hates her and calls her names, it's hard to see why she would participate, although maybe it's just for "art" or something. The book is cute, weird and rather odd if you like this sort of thing.

One thing that has always puzzled me are people who like someone but profess to hate them. This typically happens with teens or kids, but grown-ups seem to get off on hating someone they actually have a crush on.

I suppose it could just increase sexual tension but I have a hard time understanding the appeal.


Monday, February 06, 2012

Apparently, men will spend about twice as much as women this Valentine's Day (via Instapudit):
Men will do the bulk of the shopping this year, the survey found. The average male is expected to spend $168.74 – nearly twice as much as women – on clothing, jewelry and greeting cards, among other things.

I wonder if this is because Valentine's Day to women is more like Super Bowl Sunday for men? But did the women give gifts, help, free snacks etc. yesterday to their partners? This seems only fair.

Monday, January 30, 2012

The Rage Behind a Woman's Stare

Yes, this is the headline of a Washington Post column (you may need a subscription to view it) about--you guessed it--women who do too much (thanks to the reader who emailed the article):

Like our love, women’s anger — the simmering rage toward our families, our mates and assorted males that can turn even the calmest woman’s expression into The Death Look — is always there. Even when it’s the last thing on our minds....

Surprised by my sudden bitterness, I asked, “Why do we keep doing so much with so little help?” “Because no one else will do it,” Ilena snorted. “Because we can’t live in a house that looks like a cyclone went through it,” I added.

Because we’re the wife, we agreed. The mom. The girl.

Millions of Death-Look-wearing women ask, “What can I do?” yet few embrace the obvious answer: “Stop!” Stop with the cleaning, the arranging, the cheerleading, the shopping, the whole relentless shebang. Some who do stop see their homes’ disarray devolve into a chaos that’s unbearable — for them, not their families..

I wonder what a Male Death Look would look like? A desperate look that says "Stop with the body guarding, fixing the faucet, mowing the lawn, earning much of the living, the light-bulb changing, the honeydo list.... and on and on."

But we'll probably never know because what men do is not valued by most female journalists and the white knight males who support them in their sexism. In addition, men keep their anger against women to themselves as complaining will only serve to get them tagged as a misgogynist or whiner. This needs to change.


There is a good article (via Instapundit) by James Q. Wilson, author of The Marriage Problem: How Our Culture Has Weakened Families, at the Washington Post on economic inequality and its causes. This statistic caught my eye:
The past three decades have seen significant increases in real earnings for people with advanced degrees. The Bureau of Labor Statistics found that between 1979 and 2010, hourly wages for men and women with at least a college degree rose by 33 percent and 20 percent, respectively, while they fell for all people with less than a high school diploma — by 9 percent for women and 31 percent for men [my emphasis].

Those men who do not have a college degree look to be at a significant disadvantage. Given that fewer men are going to college, I wonder how this will play itself out in the coming decades? Though I notice that the article says "with less than a high school diploma." I wonder if those men with a high school diploma but no college can do okay if they find work in the military or with a vocation.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Is Nagging a Marriage Killer?

Wall Street Journal (via Newsalert):
It's More Common Than Adultery and Potentially As Toxic, So Why Is It So Hard to Stop Nagging?...

Nagging—the interaction in which one person repeatedly makes a request, the other person repeatedly ignores it and both become increasingly annoyed—is an issue every couple will grapple with at some point. While the word itself can provoke chuckles and eye-rolling, the dynamic can potentially be as dangerous to a marriage as adultery or bad finances. Experts say it is exactly the type of toxic communication that can eventually sink a relationship.