Sunday, April 11, 2010

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Blogger br549 said...

Mental illness is such a sad, tragic, often horrible thing. As in the case of Jill, a once vibrant incredible individual becomes ...what?

Someone I knew so well and loved so much became someone totally unrecognizable. And no matter what the illness did to the family, it was even worse for her. The killer for me was finally giving up, giving in, realizing there was just nothing I could do about it. And once doing so, realizing I waited too long to throw in the towel. There are no happy endings, regardless of direction taken, in such a situation.

5:40 AM, April 12, 2010  
Blogger TMink said...

"And once doing so, realizing I waited too long to throw in the towel."

You made the mistake I would want to make, the mistake of hanging on to hope longer than it turned out to be prudent to do so. It sure beats giving up to soon.

Trey

12:29 PM, April 12, 2010  
Blogger br549 said...

Thanks for that, Trey.

2:51 PM, April 12, 2010  
Blogger TMink said...

From the heart bro. It describes my marriage to my eldest daughter's mom. I hung in there too long, but I wanted to try everything for my little girl. Call me a sucker, but you can't call me a quitter! 8)

Some things you need to give every ounce that is in you in order to look at yourself in the mirror. I am so sorry that it did not work out in your case, but I totally appreciate your effort and perseverence.

Trey

3:43 PM, April 12, 2010  
Blogger Methadras said...

What does that say about mental illness itself? Is is a ravaging of the mind? Are those that suffer from it incapable of being healed from it and if not, then can they be classified as being broken? Many people abhor the idea that people can be ruined or broken to the point that they are not of considered value, but I personally say bullshit to that. I believe that people should be allowed to fight. Fight for life, fight for mind until they decide they don't want to fight anymore. I don't want someone making that decision for me. I want the chance to live regardless of my dilemma. Even if that includes become broken. To often, especially in this day and age, people are willing to give up easily because they don't see the hope in the fight. But it's the fight itself that may offer rejuvenation and even if there is none at least the fight was respected.

5:28 PM, April 13, 2010  
Blogger Cham said...

Being a friend, relative or caregiver to one with psychological challenges is a private challenge within itself. You want to hang in there and hope that you are having a positive presence on the afflicted, but you also have to take into account the damage it may be doing to you. These are never easy decisions and one should never feel guilty if they find themselves quietly bowing out. I've hung in there too long myself, and I wish I had taken some really good advice much earlier.

6:31 PM, April 13, 2010  
Blogger TMink said...

Methradras, you are a fighter dude. I bet you push for the things you need and get stuff done every day. Outstanding.

Trey

8:14 AM, April 14, 2010  

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