Tuesday, April 15, 2008

New Website for Dads

Blogger Tony Chen has started a new website, savvydaddy.com, for dads out there who are looking for some good information and articles on parenting. The site has a "survival guide" and "conversations" on such topics as how to talk with your daughter about her period, how to decide on the whole spanking thing, and how old is too old to let your kids see you naked.

Chen says he started the website after gathering some research on what men wanted in a dad's site. Dads basically said that they wanted some practical advice that was not dumbed down, they wanted to develop strong character in their kids, and they cared about their children's attitude and perspective but they are worried that the culture works against all that.

Indeed, it does. Take a look at the site if you are interested in such topics.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

My kids have never seen me naked. I haven't seen any of them naked since they were old enough to bathe themselves, although I did fill the tub for them so it wouldn't be too hot.

Looking back, raising the kids was quite the experience. A lot of fantastic memories, a few scares, and a few trying experiences. I would never do it again, though. I'm tapped out.


5:01 PM, April 15, 2008  
Blogger Chuck Pelto said...

TO: Dr. Helen
RE: Spanking?

My approach to 'dealing' with my daughters was one swift one—to get their attention—and considerable time in a corner to 'refect'.

The way I saw it was that spanking was only appropriate for two reasons (1) an imminent threat to well-being and/or (2) failure to learn from previous 'instruction'.

It was always only ONE on-the-rump. I figured that anything beyond that was just evidence of either being emotionally overwhelmed or latent sadism. And, it seemed that the time-o'relection in the corner was much more effective. But getting their attention was essential.

I hated to hear the whimpering, but I steeled myself for it as part of their growing-up process. And they always got a soft talking-to and hugs afterward.

Just my approach to this matter.


[Treat your 'men', i.e., infantry company commander mode, like your children. Treat your children like your men.

It all seems to be a matter of education and respect.

Never too harsh, but always with an eye on educating them to cope with the REAL world.]

5:32 PM, April 15, 2008  
Blogger Peregrine John said...

Very cool. Bookmarked that one for further exploration.

5:51 PM, April 15, 2008  
Blogger Ronnie Schreiber said...

how to talk with your daughter about her period

You mean like this:

Don't bitch at your husband about the toilet seat if you're gonna leave bloody poons lying about.

But seriously, while I'm sure that savvydaddy is a useful site, I'm not sure I'd want an analogous site for women. With today's misandry, savvymommy.com might not be the best place for moms to find out how to discuss erections and nocturnal emissions with their boys, unless it was run by a woman, like Dr. Helen, who doesn't get her pants in a wringer everytime she catches a whiff of testosterone.

7:05 PM, April 15, 2008  
Blogger Brad said...

...and how old is too old to let your kids see you naked."

Well, if your'e over forty and flabby you might scar them for life...

7:39 PM, April 15, 2008  
Blogger TMink said...

Great site, I joined and posted something.

Thanks Helen!


12:20 AM, April 16, 2008  
Blogger Margaret said...

It was always only ONE on-the-rump. I figured that anything beyond that was just evidence of either being emotionally overwhelmed or latent sadism.

Thank you for the wonderful comment, Chuck. As the object of childhood punishments of the sadistic variety, I can't tell you how rare it is to see this truth acknowledged.

10:48 AM, April 16, 2008  
Blogger DADvocate said...

Looks like a good site.

As for spanking, I'm with Chuck. I only spanked my kids when they hit or hurt someone else or did something forbidden that could cause themselves significant harm or death. I found it interesting that I spanked my kids probably only 4 or 5 times each in their lives.

11:02 AM, April 16, 2008  
Blogger Marbel said...

For some kids, a spanking is the best way to get their attention. For others, the brief pain of spanking is just a price they're willing to pay, thus not a deterrent at all. I'm just thankful those years go by quickly.

There are plenty of places for moms to go for advice and community; it's nice to see one for dads too. I was pleasantly surprised to see homeschooling mentioned on the site too.

12:52 PM, April 16, 2008  
Blogger El Duderino said...

What's the big deal about nudity? By all means teach your children privacy and decorum, but I see no compelling reason to avoid nudity in front of your kids after a certain age.

5:16 PM, April 16, 2008  
Blogger MOGS said...


Hey Doc, check this out and see what you think. Many if not most of us guys who are "consciously avoiding marriage" these days because we "refuse to grow up" - look at "advice" like this and honestly, become even less inclined towards it.

Basically, I read this and I see a demand for (more) entitlements, a right to nag, a "right" to be irrational and controlling, and a list of quite a few things that us guys are getting sick and tired of being told to shut up and color about.

If this post is about the "10 Inalienable Rights of Housewives" then color me out, it sounds to me more like "American Women b*tch, wonder why there are no 'decent men' out there, fail to realize it may have something to do with their attitude, and pass on advice guaranteed to perpetuate the problem to all of America" - since when is ANYONE entitled to childish behavior, and expects to be REWARDED for it?

5:35 PM, April 16, 2008  
Blogger lovemelikeareptile said...

Geesh-- I never let my female Samoyed ( dog) Etah see me uh buffo, even shooing her into the next room before I changed before an outing. What kind of nut appears naked before his children ?

1:52 AM, April 17, 2008  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

82 is definitely too old for your kids to see you naked. It's too old for anybody to see you naked. I know because I've seen my father-in-law naked. He gave me the PTSD.

12:21 PM, April 17, 2008  
Blogger Serket said...

Brad: Well, if you're over forty and flabby you might scar them for life.

Very funny!

Mogs - I went to the link, but it didn't have the article.

6:03 PM, April 17, 2008  
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