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Sunday, June 17, 2007

Happy Father's Day


Hope all you dads out there (and stepdads) are having a great day!

Update: I spent the morning getting flowers and taking them to the cemetary for my dad, Julius Smith, who died five and a half years ago. I so miss our Sunday morning talks--he was one of the most important men in my life. For those of you who wonder why I love men and support them, my father is one of the reasons. I will never forget what my father taught me about love and about life.

20 comments:

  1. Gracias Doctora. I'm on my way to the skeet range with my son :)

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  2. Dr. Helen,

    I have always heard that the most successful and confident women are those who had great father's in their lives. That certainly seems to be the case with you. I am happy for you that you had a great Dad.

    Have a super day today!

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  3. That is a nice tribute to your dad.

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  4. Dr. Helen:

    What a nice post to remember what is best about people we have lost.

    I am mindful about what you have written when I think of my two young sons.

    Thank you for sharing...

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  5. I had a father like that. I love him and miss him, and I try and try to be like him.

    Here is to the fathers that got it right.

    Trey

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  6. I didn't have a father like that, which makes me all the more thankful for the father that my children have.

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  7. What an excellent tribute. It's always hard to lose a parent, let alone an exemplary one, but he died too young.

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  8. Dear drj:

    I fear that most of us die too young. But the real tragedy is never telling the people you love that you love them.

    Dr. Helen didn't make that mistake, and I certainly called my father and told him how much he meant to me today.

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  9. Wow Helen, your dad was relatively young when he died. That has to be tough, for anyone, to have their father die at a young age. My dad is way older and is ready to go. We settled our differences a long time ago.

    I am always very flippant when discussing my final arrangements. Maybe it comes from having seen seen many kids die during my foreign adventures. My current will specifies that I am to be cremated and have my ashes spread over an area of the Sierra Nevada that I particularly like. Lately, however, the forest service is cracking down on those types of arrangements, so I have said "well, just fly over the area and dump my body out of the plane and let the bears eat it".

    But I may change my mind. A memorial like the one shown in the picture for your father gives a lot of dignity to his memory. I am beginning to think that out of respect for the surviving family, it may be a better way.

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  10. I read your Sunday Morning Talks post. It's great. The poem at the end is much prettier than the one I think of now about my father.

    Written by Neil Young right before his father died, it starts off:

    Tryin' to remember what my daddy said;
    Before too much time took away his head...

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  12. You modelled your life after his words...what better tribute is there? Very nice, Helen, very nice!

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  13. I was 22 when my father passed away. It was spring of 1984, and earlier in the year my girlfriend of two years had put me back in circulation. The Orwellian year was not kind to me.

    My father was a diabetic who had been blind and on dialysis for several years. He took it with considerable grace. A mutual friend later told me that he had asked my father once how he was able to put up with it. My father's reply was: "Well, it's not the sort of thing one would choose; but it has afforded the opportunity for a great many fascinating experiences."

    I only heard my father complain about his condition one time. I was on the phone with him, blubbering about the aforementioned ex-girlfriend. He responded by outlining, in some detail, just how miserable life could really get. I think he figured I needed some perspective, in hopes I would start to grow up.

    I miss him.

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  14. When I am long and gone, and my daughters (any one of them) writes something similar as you did for your dad? Know what? I did ok as a dad and I am sure your dad, where ever he may be, is smiling too. :)

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  15. Leon,

    Thanks for the kind words.

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  16. Around these parts it's not Fathers day it's gay pride weekend parade and festival

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