Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Airline Demonizes Men

If you plan to travel on some airlines this holiday season and are male--be prepared to give up your seat to an unaccompanied minor, lest your hormones get the better of you. Thanks to a reader for pointing out this story. For any male readers out there, what would you do if asked to give up your seat to an unaccompanied minor? I think I would threaten to sue unless they moved me to first class.

Update: Many readers have weighed in their views of airlines demonizing men--and some have missed the point altogether that this is a violation of human rights--particularly those of men. It is not about whether or not one wishes to sit next to an unaccompanied minor, (I probably wouldn't--I generally prefer to be left alone), women's right to equal pay or whether babysitters who are men abuse children. It is about the tendency of Western culture to demonize men to the point where many are afraid to participate fully as citizens in our current climate of "males as predators." Men are reluctant to help others, reluctant to teach children, and reluctant to involve themselves in many aspects of Western society--and if you doubt that---just try calling a few men to see if they want to supervise your kids' baseball game, volunteer at your school or lead a group of boy scouts. This fear of men is best described by the gentleman who was asked to give up his seat:

For Worsley, the incident was part of a far broader problem, which seemed to affect Western countries in general, he said.

"Men are being demonized in the media for a long time now. I think probably this is just society's reaction -- they think, 'We'd better start tightening up on everything.' It's getting to the stage when all men are viewed with distrust," he said.

"They've already chased men out of the teaching profession, especially for young children. I wouldn't want to be a Scoutmaster now. I wouldn't want to be a Catholic priest ..."

Do we really want to demonize men to the point that they are no longer able to fully fuction in our supposedly diverse society?

Update: Here is today's story on the airplane discrimination--thanks to kiwiblog.

Monday, November 28, 2005


I wish I could have saved my colleague Richard's life the way he (sort of) saved mine. The two year anniversary of his death is coming up on December 10th and I have no idea how he would want me to remember him. But what comes to mind is the day we went to court on a murder case in a small rural county four years ago. He worked with me as a psychological examiner and had been involved in the case which was a double homicide. I noticed the lack of metal detectors when we arrived in the courtroom and was a bit concerned at the large turn out of family members of both the defendant and the victims' families. I had spent a great deal of time preparing for this case and tried to ignore my feelings of uneasiness.

After my testimony, I looked up and saw Richard with his hands waving in the back of the court room. I was still on the witness stand and wondered why he was motioning for me to hurry. I walked back to him and he said,"it is time to go--I think there's a feud about to start." Sure enough, family members on both sides were upset with the verdict and were starting a fight. Richard grabbed my supplies and we hightailed it home. I never heard what, if anything, had happened that day--for all I knew--the fight went outside or fizzled out but I always teased Richard about the day he saved my life.

He was working with me when I had my heart attack and he was battling problems of his own. His wife had breast cancer and Richard never wavered in his care for her and was a very dedicated husband and father. He rarely complained about his situation but we talked about his high blood pressure and high stress level at times. After his wife died, his blood pressure became very high and he told me that he had been diagnosed with Long Q-T Syndrome. I didn't understand the gravity of his situation at that time and was still somewhat in denial over my own heart problems. We would sit and laugh about our "bad hearts" often, saying that given the stress of our job, it was no wonder we were "going down early."

Fast forward to two years ago--Richard had moved out of psychology for awhile and was selling insurance part-time. I saw him at a local store a couple of weeks before he died and he seemed happy. He was remarried and building a house and we chatted about how our lives were going. A couple of weeks later, I heard that he had died. He got out of the shower, told his wife he felt dizzy and that was it... I remember when I heard feeling like I had been hit with a ton of bricks. It struck too close to home and I felt so badly for his wife and daughter. When I started having rhythm problems last year and got my Implantable Cardiac Defibrillator (ICD), I thought about Richard. Why had I been so lucky to get help to save my life when Richard did not? Why didn't Richard get an ICD so that rather than that day marking the end of his life, it could have just involved a nasty shock and a trip to the hospital to get checked out?

I don't know why. But I do know that Richard is not the only one who has died from Long Q-T Syndrome. My cardiac rehab nurse gets misty-eyed when she talks about her neice, Maddy. Maddy was five years old when she walked into kindergarten class, raised her hand to go to the bathroom and collapsed and died while she was in there. The school nurse thought she was having a seizure and moved everything out of her way. A parent who was a nurse was there and wanted to start CPR but no one would let her. The staff believed that kids did not have heart problems. Maddy died waiting for someone to understand what was wrong with her.

When someone dies suddenly, people and even doctors will call it a heart attack--but often it is Sudden Death Syndrome caused by long Q-T Syndrome or other arrythmias. These deaths are preventable, especially if we get over the myth that only overweight older men have these problems.

To learn more about Sudden Death Syndrome and Long Q-T syndrome, check out the American Heart Association. Here is a risk assessment form for kids and adults can use it also to see if they need to be checked by their doctor for heart problems.

Update: Here are the new CPR guidelines.

Liberalism as Socially Motivated Cognition

I have mentioned a research study by the APA entitled, Political Conservatism as Socially Motivated Cognition, that appeared biased against conservatives. The study pointed out that there had been little research done on the traits of liberals--but they must have overlooked this article in Clio Psych's Journal from 2003. Here is an excerpt from the article that mentioned research on liberals from 1982--I guess the writers of the APA's biased article did not see fit to go back that far.

Research on the psychology of radical activists helps us to understand this mismatch between Chomsky's ideas and his personal style. In the 1970s, Stanley Rothman and Robert Lichter administered Thematic Apperception Tests to a large sample of "new left" radicals (Roots of Radicalism, 1982). They found that activists were characterized by weakened self-esteem, injured narcissism and paranoid tendencies. They were preoccupied with power and attracted to radical ideologies that offered clear and unambiguous answers to their questions. All of these traits can be found in the work of Chomsky and other anti-imperialist intellectuals.

And if you ever wondered why some liberals seem wishy-washy at times--this paragraph from the same article might explain things:

The unwillingness to offer alternatives reveals a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. If they offered their own policy ideas they would be vulnerable to criticism. They would run the risk that their ideas would fail, or would not seem persuasive to others. This is especially difficult for anti-capitalists after the fall of the Soviet Union. It has also been difficult in the war against terrorism because Saddam Hussein and Osama bin Laden are such unsympathetic figures. Psychologically, it is easier to blame America for not finding a solution than it is to put one's own ideas on the line.

Hmmm.... I don't agree here that it is lack of self-esteem that would cause liberals to seem spineless. I think it is their desire to avoid responsibility at any cost. And speaking of spineless liberals, here is another way they avoid responsibility for murderers, they just nominate them for a nobel prize--thanks to Sissy Willis.

Update: It seems like I have struck a nerve in a number of readers with this post, so let me clarify my thoughts. My intention with this post was to point out that the original APA article on Conservatives stated that there was little published about the psychological traits of liberals. The article I linked to pointed out that there was such a study and it looked just as negative as the one that was published by the APA about Conservatives. I was mocking the way one could exploit this research much in the same way this press release from Berkeley did with the APA article in which they mention Rush Limbaugh and Reagan as right wingers like Hitler and Mussolini. I should have made these points clearer. In addition, the "spineless liberal" term was a bit over the top but I have very strong feelings about celebrities who rally to get murderers sentences reduced or released. The legal system should deal with this, not a group of actors. It just makes me think of the Norman Mailer fiasco.

Mental Health Blogging and Other Points of Interest

If you want to know more about some of the mental health blogs--check out this round-up by Dr. Sanity. I like the really cool picture of her.

Oh, and if you thought physical medicine was not impersonal enough--check out Dr. Wes's blog on cameras in your hospital room.

Scott Adams explains the rules of internet commenting. Read it--it's quite funny. Thanks to Shrinkette for pointing this out.

Sunday, November 27, 2005

Slumming It

I just got back from the beginning of holiday shopping with the family---my head is spinning, I feel dizzy and on the verge of collapse. I know I am supposed to enjoy shoppping for fashion items like other women , but I hate it. Perhaps I am just a hopeless closet geek who cares as much for shoes as I do for a trip to the dentist. I don't understand how Manolo the shoe blogger can have a whole blog on...shoes. Thank goodness there are others out there to support this blog (although he is quite funny and I love his writing style). I just watched tons of shoppers sifting through a shoe store at the mall where I was taking advantage of the empty seating. "What", I thought, "could they possibly see in a pair of shoes that would command such a hunt?" Did I not get the shopping gene? Are women really supposed to care about shopping and whether a particular bag cost $21000? Apparently, fashion is important to many people.

Ed Driscoll talks about the importance of clothing, and finds the following rules from Manolo's shoe blog to be salient:

5) The clothes they are important. They say important things about your identity, even if you pretend that they do not.

6) The fashion it is not the nuclear rocket brain surgery. One does not need the grounding in the theoretical sciences to know how to dress well.

Sorry guys, but I only care about how I look in relation to what others expect of me--left to my own devices, I would dress like I was auditioning for a part on Ambush Makeover and feel fine about it. Even when I was younger, dressing up meant little to me. I once went to the first meeting of a formal psychoanalytic externship in gym clothes (hey, I just got out of the gym and I took a shower). I walked in on a group of over 30 people all dressed in professional clothes glaring at me. Afterwards, the supervisor came up to me and said that I would need to wear more appropriate clothes to actually see patients and I played the part while I was there. I wore whatever nice skirt or outfit I could scape together but I never felt good because of it or felt that I had any of my identity tied to my clothes.

I think because my identity is tied up in being the observer and not the observed. To me, being the observer is more fun. I love watching people and have from a young age. If you do not not stand out in any way, people act more naturally around you and let you know more about them. I found this true in my work as a psychologist and I find it true in everyday life. People do not try to impress or connect too much to people who are "slumming" it the way I do most of the time out in public. At the office, it is different, I will dress to meet the needs of my job, of course. But in my regular life, you will probably not notice me for my fashion sense because I will be the one slouching in the corner with the too large purple sweat pants, ripped t-shirt and oversized down coat from the 1980's that belonged to my husband when he was in college.

Saturday, November 26, 2005


Many people have written to ask me to talk about my vegetarianism when I was younger and why I went back to being a carnivore. Well--here is the story. When I was younger, I thought it wrong to hurt another living thing. I had compassion for flies, ants and anything else that moved. At twelve, I bought myself the book, Diet for a Small Planet. I figured if I was going to be a vegetarian, I might as well be a good one. I made salads, ate fruits and vegetables and tried to eat meals that were comprised of complete proteins.

My parents never balked at this change in my diet and just bought whatever grocery items I needed as long as I prepared most of my own foods. I never asked anyone to share my personal decision nor did I think that eating meat was sacrilegious. At twelve, I had reached the Piagetian stage of formal operations and was able to reason that other people did not all think like me and made their own decisions--which had nothing to do with me. At this time, I lost all idealistic perceptions of others, mainly adults. I had a crush on a male teacher at that time but it evaporated as I realized that he was no different than me, a mere mortal, who was human just like me. I never had a hero after that as I had learned a long time before, that no one could rescue me from pain and anguish but myself.

I had a tremendous amount of free-floating hostility within me as well as downright aggression--I thought being a pacifist (which included being a vegetarian) could control my inner feelings of rage. But it only sublimated those feelings for a while. I sat quietly while peers at school made fun of me. But I learned the truth about what worked when one of my siblings brought down a boy who taunted me about my wild kinky hair on the school bus with threats of violence. My pacifism did not work. It only served to make me angrier. As the years went by, I learned to explore my anger and aggressive feelings and to allow them to come to the surface and not to be afraid of them. By the time I was 24 and walking through the isles of Key Foods in Manhattan looking at rows of tuna fish, I realized that I no longer needed to hang onto my role as a vegetarian to prove that I was a "good" person. I was a decent person all ready. I will never forget the day I tried a can of tuna--it was magnificent.

I still decided for health purposes that I would not eat red meat as I had high cholesterol even in my 20's but I also had anemia. Then at 37, when I had a heart attack, I decided I had had enough of trying so hard to be healthy. It obviously did not work for me. I had run myself into the ground, exercised, given up meat and did everything I could to be healthy and it all backfired. I went to Mortons in Nashville and ate filet mignon and have not stopped since. I still try to eat healthy and have very little meat but it is just because I have to watch cholesterol, not for any psychological reasons.

I now look skeptically at people who preach vegetarianism to others as a type of religion--they are often the same ones who tout peace and brotherhood while trying to mask their feelings of aggression. My husband once said that he did not worry about violence from peace activists but frankly, I would rather hang out with a crowd of hard core gun addicts. I find them more capable of understanding and controlling their own aggression. People who preach peace in the face of appalling violence deny their aggression and target it at others who are not deserving of it or who are trying to protect them. I cannot justify that.

Here is an example of what I mean about using food as a method of virtue and pacifism. Notice that the bloated Americans are eating "fat turkeys" while the innocent peace activists are eating salmon, lentils and rice. With this holier-than-thou attitude, should they be eating salmon at all? Thanks to Professor Althouse for pointing out this article.

Thursday, November 24, 2005

Can Women be Predators?

I was talking to a friend the other day about all the female teachers in the news who have been having sex with teenage boys. Her response was that these women must have low self-esteem, feel bad about their marriage or have some other reason for engaging in this behavior. When I asked her if she would give the same leeway to men who fondle teen girls (note, I did not even go as far as saying having sex with them), she shuddered at the mere thought of that and said, "No, they're men, that's what they do."

I was surprised because this female friend prides herself on not stereotyping others. I asked her if she thought that only men were predators, to which she replied, "well, I guess a woman could be a predator but I never thought about it." She stopped herself and said, "you know, I just assumed that was the way things were, but that can't be right." I think the idea of all men as potential predators is so ingrained in our society that we do not stop to think that the idea might be not only preposterous, but that it supposes that women are not predators.

In an incredibly insightful book entitled, When She Was Bad: How and Why Women Get Away With Murder, Patricia Pearson explains that we often mistake women for angels. We always want to see women as victims, rather than perpretrators of crime--that thought is too scary, I think, because we want to believe that the last person who would hurt us is a mother.

So we do anything we can to document that women are victims, rather than predators. When we look at crime rates, we see tables that cite the percentage of incarcerated women who were abused as children. There is typically not such a table for men---even though more boys are physically abused in childhood than girls. We try to justify why a girl would grow up to be a woman who harms others but we have no such excuse for men. Pearson says that this is because we clearly seek a preemptive cause for female transgressions that preserves an emphasis on victimization. "It is not the effect of abuse on future criminality that truly concerns us. It is the desire to avoid seeing women as willful aggressors."

Just take a look at any TV show on Lifetime or We--women are always victims and rarely aggressors. They fight only in self-defense and never out of the normal human emotions of greed, lust, or anger. Oxygen Network started to get progressive for a while with Snapped, a show about women who kill for the reasons just listed, but they quickly surcombed to the feminist dogma that women only harm others because they are forced to by men. (Notice the language of the cultural facists involved in the link to this freebattered women's site where they describe Snapped as a "misogynist, homophobic" show).

As long as we believe that women do not possess the full range of human emotions, we will continue to see them as victims of circumstance. The real tragedy in this is that the real victims of these predator women (who are often children) will never see justice served and the rest of us who are female will live with stereotypes that have not moved us beyond the 19th century.

Wednesday, November 23, 2005

Happy Thanksgiving!

I hope everyone has a happy Thanksgiving and enjoys the holiday. I am going to eat some lovely lamb and turkey and revel in no longer being a vegetarian--I would not eat meat from the time I was twelve until about six years ago--don't know what I was thinking. Happy Holiday!

UPDATE: Here's a picture of me with a politically correct turkey! It's an ice-cream cake from Baskin-Robbins.

About Me

If you would like some more information about me--here are my answers to frequently asked questions:

What do you actually do?

I am a disenchanted psychologist who has spent much of my time listening to liberal blather and decided to write a blog about my views on a number of topics. My actual job consists of a private practice where I do forensic and mental evaluations for courts, attorneys and other agencies.

I thought you were a psychologist--I came to your blog to get free therapy. What gives?

I do not provide free therapy or therapy of any type on this blog. I am a blogger and am writing about topics that interest me. I provide commentary on popular culture and society. If you need therapy--seek a therapist. You would not expect a surgeon to provide free surgery via the web, would you?

I thought you would be a sweet psychologist who was out the save the world from the oppression of a capitalist society. Do you have no compassion for the poverty stricken, the disabled, victims etc.?

I am the epitome of capitalism--it is the only system that holds human nature accountable for its failings. I despise socialism and victimhood. From a young age, I believed that the rights of the individual and freedom were the most important principles a nation could stand for. Compassion is not telling people what to do and giving handouts--it is teaching people to stand up and care for themselves as best they can.

Why do you allow commenters to post anonymously on your blog? I find this annoying and cowardly.

My blog is set up as a forum for my views and anyone else who wants to comment on them. As long as the comments are fairly respectable, I feel that commenters should post anyway they wish. Some people do not want their identity known and I respect that. I just use the time that they wrote in to identify them.

Aren't you the Instawife? and if so, I am a feminist and really do not think a woman should be referred to in this way.

Yes, I am the Instawife. I do not care what my husband calls me--only that he calls me something. (It started as a way to protect my privacy, until we realized that I'm easy to find on Google anyway. Now it's just a nickname.) If you have a problem with the term Instawife--go start your own blog to discuss it with other busybodies such as yourself who have nothing better to do than to decide what is right for everyone.

Tuesday, November 22, 2005

Ten Years in Jail for That?

It seems that women are feeling the sting of the strict sexual offender policies. This seems like an awfully long sentence for not actually doing anything. It used to be only men got this kind of treatment -- now women can be treated unfairly, too. Wouldn't it be better if we were fairer to everybody?

Update: So if you are a teacher and have sex in person with a student--you won't get any jail time. Note to women--if you plan to have sex with teenage boys--do so in person and not over the phone. The former gets you off the hook (especially if you are attractive) and the latter could land you in jail for up to ten years.

Thanks to a reader who pointed out yet another case of a female teacher having sex with a 16-year old. I wonder if these are the abusers Oprah had in mind when she advocated for a one strike law for sexual offenders?

Pajamas Media Returns

Pajamas Media gets its name back! I never cared much for the Open Source Media name and as for "Pajamas" not sounding "grown up enough"--I don't know--seems to me that when bloggers in their pajamas can get out information faster and outwit the so-called grown-up MSM, who is the real adult here?

Monday, November 21, 2005

Teen Went Willingly

Kara Borden, the 14 year old teen whose parents were shot by David Ludwig, apparently went with him willingly and was not kidnapped. I wonder what more we will find out about this young lady in the coming weeks.

Update: Here is another story from the Herald Sun with the headline, Real-Life `Natural Born Killer' Tells. Is it my imagination or has every killer kid in America been said to be influenced by this movie? As I have said in the past, blaming Oliver Stone, the Internet and Satanism is not going to bring about a solution to the problem of kids and violence. People want to believe that violent teens just "snap" and become killers after watching a violent movie but the truth is, there is a long history of weird and sometimes secretive behavior, that many in the kid's milieu know nothing about or don't want to hear. If you had access to the kid's thinking pattern prior to their murder sprees, it would all make sense. But this would require actually listening and monitoring a teen's behavior, something many do not want to do.

It does not help that we have infused kids with a lack of guilt--trying our best to raise their self-esteem to the point where the normal social sanctions against murder no longer apply to some kids. According to a study by a George Mason University professor, guilt has been found to possibly predict later behavior. Kids who were more prone to feeling guilt were less likely to try drugs and alcohol, less likely to become criminals, less likely to commit suicide and more likely to practice safe sex.

School Rebellion

I have noticed a big trend in schools now is to cut the programs that will hurt children and their parents the most to make a political point. My middle school just cut the Talented and Gifted program (TAG) due to "lack of funds" which I find rather ironic--given that Tennessee started a lottery last year with the promise that some of the proceeds were to be given to the schools--don't know where the money went but apparently not to the TAG program. I suspect if Tennessee implemented an income tax--we would see the same results--more money supposedly raised for education, yet somehow the programs it was meant to implement never would appear and some important ones would continue to disappear.

Recently, more and more physical education classes are being cut by schools who say they cannot keep up with all of the requirements of the federal No Child Left Behind Act (NCLB). Just ask any teacher involved with the NCLB act and watch his or her reaction--it's often amusing as most teachers hate the politics behind the Act as much as the Act itself. The protest is also a way to avoid accountability according to some:

"It's been my experience that schools quick to seize on the requirements of NCLB are using the changes as an excuse for why they can't do these things," said Hayes Mizell, a Distinguished Senior Fellow at the National Staff Development Council, an organization dedicated to the professional development of educators. "They're really trying to avoid accountability," he said. Mizell believes schools need to use imagination when faced with reforms.

In a recent book entitled, Education Myths: What Special-Interest Groups Want You to Believe About Our Schools and Why It isn't So, author Jay Greene exposes eighteen widely held myths about education. He states that it is a myth that accountability systems impose large financial burdens on schools. In addition, states that have adopted acountability testing have students that achieve a higher lever of basic skills than in other states. Now, if we could just have schools be accountable for making sure our kids get phys ed.

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Another Example of Cultural Fascism

Would a Republican Leader get away with saying this? via Dr. Sanity.

And yet another example of cultural fascism--this time from a professor at a community college who responded to a student's announcement that a soldier would be speaking about the accomplishments in Iraq at the college:

Young America’s Foundation exposed Warren Community College’s radical Professor John Daly, who in an email to student Rebecca Beach, vowed to intimidate those students who host conservative speakers and called for American soldiers in Iraq to murder their superiors.

Instead of admonishing the professor’s intemperate attack on a student’s right of free expression, Warren Community College President William Austin said Prof. John Daly has “first amendment rights” to harass Rebecca. Furthermore, the President is trying to bully Rebecca into silence. He said Rebecca, not Prof. John Daly, is ruining the college’s name by going on talk radio and television exposing Daly’s mean spirited email.

Now, turn the tables and imagine that a left-leaning Democratic group of students was able to get Michael Moore or some socialist leader like Fidel Castro to speak at this so called establishment of higher education--not only would the faculty probably not object, they would be kissing this would-be speaker's ass.

So if you believe that the political correctness police do not punish right-leaning citizens for their views--think again.

New Modeling Gig

Hmm--maybe I have a new career as a t-shirt model. Ok--so I am a case study over at a website run by a physician from the Cleveland Clinic but I will take what I can get.

This medical blog is actually quite interesting--check out this article on the strip search at McDonalds where staff actually strip-searched employees after a criminal caller posing as a police officer told them to. A Google search by investigators turned up the fact that this was not an isolated incident--it had been done before. Isn't this amazing? If someone called me and told me to do something like this, I would tell them to drop dead.

Saturday, November 19, 2005

Dead Meat

I just watched a new documentary by Stuart Browning and Blaine Greenberg that exposes the socialist healthcare system of Canada. Interviews with patients who have been left waiting, sometimes for years, to get surgeries or procedures for life threatening illnesses will expose the viewers to the cruelty and unaccountability of a single-payer health care system. Liberals in the US talk a good game of having universal health coverage where everyone benefits--including the poor. The joke is, the single payer system provides poorer care for everyone--including the poor. I also find it ironic that the majority of people who support the Canadian system appear to be well. Try being sick and involved in one of these socialist healthcare systems and I think that view would quickly change. See the trailer for the documentary , Dead Meat, here.

Update: Stuart Browning, from On the Fence Films, addresses our discussion about the politics of the Canadian Health Care System.

Another Update: A news story describing the wait times in Ontario. Thanks to Newsbeat 1.

Update III: Here is more information on wait times at doctorrw.

Friday, November 18, 2005

Does the Absence of Fathers Cause ADHD?

In a controversial new book, Destructive Trends in Mental Health: The Well-Intentioned Path to Harm, the authors point out a study that showed ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) might be related to a lack of a positive father figure. Rogers Wright and Nicholas Cummings, two liberal psychologists who were prominent leaders within the American Psychological Association, have seen first hand how the organization has omitted important research when it did not fit in with their liberal dogma.

In a study described in the book, kids with ADHD were paired with male therapists due to a noted absence of fathers in this child/adolecent population. The kids were given behavioral treatment with the therapists and special attention was paid to developing a positive attachment to the male figure. At the end of the treatment, only 11% of the boys and 2% of the girls had to remain on medication. The authors of this sudy suggested that social forces may be major contributors to ADHD. Among these social forces are: "the absence of positive father role models; the presence of a revolving door for negative male role models brought into the home; poor parenting; the need for order in the classroom when teachers are severely curtailed in meting out discipline; and a declining appreciation in our culture of what constitutes normal boy behavior." This study was never given much attention by the mental health community as the "solutions" were not politically correct at they emphasized the deficit of a male role model.

I wonder how this lack of positive role models and declining appreciation for normal boy behavior plays out with the shortage of male teachers in the classroom. Could male children be taking Ritalin as a substitute for their absence?

Thursday, November 17, 2005

Cultural Fascism

Some readers have questioned why I advocate so much for men, call women the same names they call men or just plain seem politically incorrect. I do so more for effect than to be rude, obnoxious or display hostility. I tried the nice way--you know--where you politely disagree with others and try to make a point and I kept waiting for the politically correct crowd to change their ways, but that approach did not work. Why?--because they have intimidated, frightened and just plain punished those who disagree with them--into silence. And we let them. Maybe something more drastic is needed.

I believe there is something sinister in our midst--a kind of cultural fascism (I will be writing more about this in a subsequent book review)--that is prevalent in our society. People's speech is being hijacked by the political correctness police and many are afraid to speak up. We keep our mouths shut so we will not be deemed a racist, sexist or homophobe. In this way, the cultural fascists are winning. But if every person who believed in free speech and differing viewpoints would speak up--there would be more of a discussion--a diaglogue that might result in a more even-handed way in which people of all worldviews are treated.

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

If you are in the Knoxville area, you can see me on the 6:00 news on Volunteer TV briefly discussing the juvenile transfer process for kids like Kenneth Bartley who was involved in a school shooting.

Update: Here is the news story and video.

Just Try to Tame Those Brats

Thanks to a reader who told me about this column in the Chicago Tribune. It is unbelievable that our society puts up with any bratty behavior that children want to display--with no consequences. It's no wonder they grow up to be David Ludwig (and perhaps Kara Borden, who may or may not be a vicitm) who cannot hear the word no. The article describes a restaurant owner who put up a sign to ask parents to keep their children under control:

"McCauley, owner of A Taste of Heaven restaurant, was fed up with shrieking, bratty kids climbing on his fixtures or flopping on the floor blocking waitresses carrying pots of hot coffee, while the parents remained relaxed and infuriatingly indifferent."

The moms were outraged about the sign and decided to boycott the restaurant while the dads just kept their mouths shut. Contrast this to what happened when I was a kid. My parents brought their five kids to a place called the "Lazy Susan" which served the food in a buffet style set up. We did not know how to act and were putting our hands in the food, and not staying seated. The management came up to my parents, told them to take their kids out, leave and not come back. We were all embarrassed and never acted that way in public again (we were all under 8 at the time). Actually, my parents hired a babysitter and did not take us out as often.

The mothers boycotting the restaurant gives a clear message to kids that it is ok to act like a brat. Congratulations to these selfish mothers. Dads are afraid to speak up which is a shame--given that as the Nanny State takes over the raising of our kids--parents will have less and less say so in their upbringing.

This story does have a happy ending--the restaurant owner's business has tripled, despite the boycott and he no longer has to endure the endless shreiks of poorly behaved children.

Update: Dadvocate has a typical example of how spoiled children lose out by not being invited to hang out with family members.

Tuesday, November 15, 2005

Mother gets 30 Years for Seducing Boys

Well--if it was a guy--they would call it "molesting" rather than seducing but at least the courts are holding women responsible for their actions. See the story here. But my question is, if she had killed the boys rather than seduce them, would she have gotten less time?

The New Romeo and Juliet

Kara Borden and boyfriend, David Ludwig,were caught yesterday after Ludwig allegedly shot Borden's parents with a single wound to the head. Ludwig is suspected of killing the parents over Kara's curfew. "It's completely insane, completely insane," Lancaster County, Pa., Coroner G. Gary Kirchner said. "This isn't a Romeo-and-Juliet deal. This is far worse than that."

Yes, it is far worse. At least when the star-crossed lovers, Romeo and Juliet, were barred from seeing each other by their families, they took their own lives. As sad as this may be, they made the decision to kill themselves and did not take others down with them. Now, the former internalizers of aggression are externalizing their anger outwardly. This external use of anger should come as no surprise to the parents of today's teens. American culture worships youth, puts few boundaries on kids (except at school and only as a hypocritical reactive measure) and teaches kids that there are no consequences for their behavior. Even if a parent teaches their kid that no means no--there are peers, television and the wider society that sends the message to kids that they are in charge.

Parents are not allowed to discipline kids for fear that they will land in jail. All kids now know the drill that if they get mad at mom or dad, they can report them to the authorities for child abuse. Even if they never do it, kids realize the threat it holds over their parent's heads. I have talked to many girls in my work as a psychologist who have turned in their father or stepfather for "hitting them" out of anger and revenge. Other parents are also so busy trying to get their kids to like them (God forbid they should be put into the position of being an authority figure--they might end up looking like George Bush or one of those other white men who see the world in moral terms) that they let their kids get away with murder at home and elsewhere. People may think it is cute when a little kids gets his way (I don't, I cringe) but in the end--a teen who will not compromise and insists on getting his or her own way is never an asset and can be a timebomb.

Update: Flavor Country has a good post on the "kidnapping" of Kara Borden. If the tables were turned and we had a fourteen year old boy and eighteen year old girl--would they even have put out an Amber Alert?

Monday, November 14, 2005

A Hypochondriac's Dream

I received this in the mailtoday from Amazon--been meaning to order it for a while but finally got around to it. This device not only measures blood pressure but detects irregular heartbeats which can be a sign of atrial fibrillation which can lead to an increased risk of stroke. I have atrial fib (as well as other heart rhythm problems) and the device certainly picked up my irregular heart beat. It seems like a good gadget for those who need to closely monitor their blood pressure or heart rate.

New Blog

Dr. Wes Fisher is an extraordinary electrophysiologist (a cardiologist who treats heart rhythm problems)--he not only sees patients but he runs the medtees shirts site that sells humorous shirts for people with illnesses. He has just started a new blog--go by and say hi--it is not often that a cardiologist cares so much about the psychological well-being of those who are ill but it goes hand in hand with getting well. The blogosphere will be enriched from his presence.

Two Pennsylvania Teens Found

If you have been following the news this morning, you know that two Pennsylvania teens were being sought after the girl's parents were found murdered. There was an amber alert looking for fourteen-year-old Kara Borden stating that she had been kidnapped by eighteen year old David Ludwig. It seems Kara had gone out with this boy the night before and they were sneaking around behind her parent's back as they did not approve of the relationship, according to a friend. I would not be surprised if it turns out that this is more than a case of a kidnapped girl and her thug boyfriend. The teens were captured early this afternoon.

Update: Both of the teens were found to have blogs--rather normal ones I might add but check them out at Psych Central.

Turning the Tables

Every once in a while, I make a crack about women--I might call a particular woman a jerk or a bully or some other name. I often do it for effect as much as anything else. Why, you may ask, would she say something negative about someone of her own gender?

Because I believe that women can take it. Men, for the longest time, have been the subject of jokes, putdowns and just downright rude expletives, mainly by women, but also by men. This behavior, our society thinks, is somehow acceptable. Men are in power and therefore, the oppressors--of women, minorities or anyone else who dares get in the way of their perceived status. But wait, is this really true, or have the tables turned? There are many areas now where women are in power, yet the male bashing continues. Now, in many circumstances, women are in power, yet they are acting just like the men they complained about.

If you want to see grumbling about men--just head down to an elementary school at the end of a day, like I did once. I went to visit a male teacher and asked a group of female teachers where he was. "He is not here," one of them stated, "he always leaves early." "Yes, just like a man," said another, "always out the door while the rest of us work." This male teacher was in the middle of getting married and lived far away from the school. He was not asked to come back the following year and the male principal as well as the male substitutes left the school also with little explanation. A female principal came in and brought her staff of "good old girls" with her. In this particular elementary school, there is not a single man--they have all been run out.

Men are now the new sex objects. Women feel totally free to comment on men's dress, they straighten ties on men they do not know and touch men in ways that would land a man in diversity training if they did the same to a woman. One man told me recently that a female administrator put her hand inside his shirt, squeezed his pec, and said, "you're looking good, have you been working out?" Try doing that to a woman--put your hand on her boob and say, "hey, these look good, are they real?" Good luck holding on to your job.

Joking about people and making crass comments is seen as the weapon of the minority against the majority. You can do it if you are the right gender or race. The psychological reason that society lets women and certain minorities get away with it is that they are seen as the underdog--they are viewed as weak and not able to tolerate a joke or a negative comment for fear they will crumble. But I think women and minorities are stronger than that. I do not see women as people who are weak--but rather who are strong and autonomous--those types of people do not need the government to intervene on their behalf everytime a negative word is said. In a free society, we should have the right to make offensive remarks and jokes without fear of punishment--even of so-called minorities.

Sunday, November 13, 2005

Canival of the Insanities

If you do not read psychiatrist Dr. Sanity's blog--do so. She has some interesting posts up including a link to a test that asks, "What horrible affliction are you?" Just for the record, I am rickets.

Saturday, November 12, 2005

What Gave You the Idea We Were Politically Correct?

So I am not the only one who finds the mental health profession entrenched in political correctness. The American Psychological Association just had its 113th annual convention in Washinton D.C. APA conventioneers aired their thoughts on where they thought the field of psychology should go. Shockingly, some participants expressed their views that the association's encouragement of diversity errs on the side of being too "politically correct."

An Industrial psychologist discussed what he thought was "blue state" bias during the convention--and mentioned that speakers there made disparaging references to "red state" officials and showed a viewing of Outfoxed, a film that criticizes alleged right-wing bias in Fox News. One of the leaders of the conference stated that the APA "respects" (note he does not say believes in) free speech and wants to make sure that all perspectives are respected and not silenced. (So I guess next they'll be showing Michael Moore Hates America, right? Right.) APA President Ronald Levant stated that these concerns are being addressed by a Task Force on Diversity and the chair of the Policy & Planning board stated that APA has trained its leaders to have "difficult dialogues" with people of divergent views.

Wow guys, for an organization who states its purpose is to promote a welcoming climate for all psychologists, a lot of us are not feeling it. One APA member recently wrote a letter to the editor stating that "traditionalist views on gender, homosexuality, family and a host of other issues are currently not welcome at APA." "Diversity," the writer states, "has been redefined into a kind of narrow politicism, where differing world views are not only summarily dismissed, but the holders of such views are actually punished."

The APA overall is a well-intentioned organization but they live in a bubble like so many other professional organizations. Maybe they should open up the top and let a little fresh air in--it would be good for all of us.

Friday, November 11, 2005

Happy Veterans Day

Verteran's day is a wonderful way to celebrate all of the brave men and women in our country who have served to keep us free. Why is it that my bank realizes this and closes in recognition but our school system does not? I admire those who have the discipline, courage and self sacrifice necessary to hold this important job like American Soldier, a brave blogger who writes on war and family issues. He has some nice pictures from home on his site for Veteran's Day.

Years ago at fourteen I used to take flying lessons; I dreamed of becoming a pilot in the Air Force and serving my country but that dream got derailed. I received an Air Force scholarship at eighteen for college but found out that I would have to train to be a navigator instead of a pilot due to my eyesight. I had to laugh at that thought, given that I never could read a map--when I took the FAA flight test as a teen, I barely squeaked by as I couldn't find my way out of a paper bag. After trying to find a local rural jail recently (a two hour ordeal), I realized the luck of the American government that I never took the scholarship. I could see myself given orders to bomb Irag and instead dropping a bomb on the Chinese Embassy. Yes, it is better that I decided to pay my own way through college and stay in the civilian world where I only frustrate myself by driving to the wrong county every once in a while.

City Confidential Show

After this recent school shooting, we have all probably seen enough of kids who turn violent (please remember, this is a fairly rare occurrence). However, if you would like to see more about kids who comitt mass murder, you can tune in on Saturday night (November 12th) and watch me on City Confidential on A&E at 7 PM Eastern time. The show is entitled "Kentucky Gothic" and is about the Lillelid case in Knoxville that I did a documentary about two years ago. If you are interested in the psychological underpinnings of this mass murder case--you can read more about it at my website www.sixthemovie.com.

Thursday, November 10, 2005

More Information on School Shooting in Campbell County

Thanks to all the commenters on this blog for their insightful comments on the Campbell County School Shooting. One commenter indicated that he attended Campbell County High School where the shooting took place and offers the following description of the school. This is an interesting report although I do not personally know the commenter:

I was a student at Campbell County Comprehensive High School. The school was a de facto prison. In fact, if you were to make the journey to LaFollette, Tennessee and drive past the school, you would be hard pressed to determine, without reading the sign, whether the campus was that of a prison or that of a school. It is complete with barbed wire fence, guard shack and police officer.
Based on my experiences, I would suggest that the administration focus more on engaging the children in their task, learning and preparing for the future, and less on dominating their charges.

I find this quote from a former student very interesting as it is consistent with my research on kids who are violent at school. In my research, I found that of the kids who said they had engaged in violence, 23% of them said that school "felt like jail to them." What do prisoners in jail do when they feel treated unfairly? They tend to riot.

Thanks to another commenter for pointing out a story in the Knoxville News-Sentinel with more information on the suspect, Kenneth Bartley.

Update: It's interesting that China is having problems with school violence also--via Peenie Wallace.

Tuesday, November 08, 2005

School Shooting

There was a school shooting in Campbell County, Tennessee near my home town of Knoville this afternoon. The principal, and two associate principals have been shot by a teenage boy--See more here.

Update: The suspect in this shooting is a fifteen year old boy who students say "liked attention." I believe a major contributing factor in these school shootings is a desire to be noticed and a sense of entitlement to notoriety and in general (thanks to our baby boomer parents who think their kids can do no wrong). These kids usually have what psychologists refer to as "Atypical Depression" which is an active depression that manifests itself in irritability, anger and blaming others for their problems. The teen generally is average to high average in intelligence, has a first degree relative with mental illness and has a desire for vengence against a particular target--the school, students, or in this case, the administration. If you would like to learn more about school shooters, you can read my book, The Scarred Heart: Undertanding and Identifying Kids Who Kill for free at www.violentkids.com or go to Amazon.com to view it. The Knoxville News-Sentinel's blogger, Michael Silence, has more on the shooting, and has rounded up lots of posts by bloggers from the area.

For those of you interested in the gun debate on this issue--it has been found that boys who own legal firearms show less delinquency even then those boys who do not own guns at all. It is the boys that own illegal guns who comitt more crimes--not surprising as they have shown themselves willing to break the law already. See more on this issue here.

Monday, November 07, 2005

For Men, it's 1962

Men seem to be in the shape that women were--in 1962, and what is painfully clear is that most don't even know it or care. Every time I read about women's plight in the sixties and seventies, I realize that men are now being treated in much the same way. Yet, just like so many women then, they rarely acknowledge the extent of the discrimination that is taking place. One of the reasons is that society tells men, particularly white ones, that they hold special privilege in the United States. But as Scott Adams (from the hilarious Dilbert cartoons) says, "those are other men." The truth is, many average guys lead a life of quiet desperation or worse. At the extreme end of discrimination are men who cannot get help if they are battered. Here are quotes from men who have been verbally or emotionally abused--by women:

"Funny, at the time I told myself I deserved it."

"Here's the kicker. I am a mental health professional, social worker and marriage and family therapist. I had blinders on like most guys. I interpreted her behavior as emotional disturbance, and would often sit up all night trying to comfort her after one of these episodes."

"We've tried to find help for him but all of the shelters just answer in silence. It's a shame how he was treated by the police and that there are no shelters or groups to help men, they need it every bit as much as women."

These are the same lines that women had before they became aware that domestic violence was a crime. Yet, they are from men who have been battered and abused--by women. In an excerpt from a new book by prosecutor Jeanine Pirro, she describes domestic violence against women in New York in the 1970's. "..too many people, including those in law enforcement, didn't believe it was a serious matter. Worse still, they treated it like a joke. There was a saying at the time, `Every woman should be taken with a grain of assault.' How could such a sentiment produce laughs?" Well, apparently, those laughs are now reserved for battered men.

Just ask Jan Dimmitt, who is the Executive Director of an emergency support shelter in current times, who states, "Whenever I speak of male abuse, I am met by disbelief and, even worse, laughter. ... I notice in talking with other shelter staff throughout the state that this attitude prevails in the other shelters, too -- men are the perpetrators, women are the victims."

Well, obviously, the judicial system thinks women are victims and men are expendable, otherwise why would women spend so little time in prison for killing their husbands? The Bureau of Justice Statistics found that on average, convicted wives received prison sentences that were about 10 years shorter than what husbands received. Excluding life or death sentences, the average prison sentence for killing a spouse was 6 years for wives but 16.5 years for husbands.

I thought we were supposed to be beyond gender stereotypes, but I guess I was wrong. We've just traded in the old ones for new ones.

Sunday, November 06, 2005

More Than You Wanted to Know

Lots of people have asked for the story of my heart attack. It's here.

Saturday, November 05, 2005

My Lifesavers!

Here is me (middle) with two of the nurses from Baptist Hospital West in Knoxville who run the cardiac rehab. These are the most dedicated nurses I have ever encountered and I owe my recovery to them. Although I hope none of my readers ever need this type of medical help, if you do, I hope you find such wonderful professionals.

Walking the Walk

More pictures

Here is the back of my t-shirt. If you have heart problems, you will know what VF stands for--for those that don't, a defibrillator protects against ventricular fibrillation--a fatal rhythm problem.

Heartwalk 2005

Thanks so much to all my readers (and Instapundit's) for their generous donations to the American Heart Association. The heart walk was this morning and was a lot of fun. This is a great t-shirt I got from Cafe Press to wear--you can order them here if you have a defibrillator or know someone who does. The back of the t-shirt is interesting. I will put it up in another post.

Friday, November 04, 2005

Is the APA Biased?

Some of my readers have emailed or commented to say that the American Psychological Association is not biased and at least studies the issues of men. I checked out Division 51 of the APA (Men's division) and looked at their newsletter. Hint--just because an organization has a division stating they study men does not mean that they understand them. Take a look at an article entitled Explorations in Phenonmenology (you will have to scroll down the page). After reading this article, it was clear that the newspaper editor who wrote it believes men are basking in the privilege of being men, assuming incorrectly that women might charge them with sexual harrassment (oh no, this never happens), are afraid of left wing conspiracies and are homophobes. The interviewer gets downright angry at the last idea. Read it and decide for yourself.

Update: Here is yet another example of the APA prejudicial views towards conservatives in an article entitled: Political Conservatism as Motivated Social Cognition. I have read this article before but thanks to Michelle Malkin in her new book, Unhinged, for pointing out the article again.

Analyzing political conservatism as motivated social cognition integrates theories of personality (authoritarianism, dogmatism–intolerance of ambiguity), epistemic and existential needs (for closure,regulatory focus, terror management), and ideological rationalization (social dominance, system justification). A meta-analysis (88 samples, 12 countries, 22,818 cases) confirms that several psychologicalvariables predict political conservatism: death anxiety (weighted mean r .50); system instability (.47); dogmatism–intolerance of ambiguity (.34); openness to experience (–.32); uncertainty tolerance (–.27); needs for order, structure, and closure (.26); integrative complexity (–.20); fear of threat and loss (.18); and self-esteem (–.09). The core ideology of conservatism stresses resistance to change and justification of inequality and is motivated by needs that vary situationally and dispositionally to manage uncertainty and threat.

Though the article points out that the authors do not believe conservatives are pathological, what can you say about those you have described as anxious about death, intolerant of ambiguity, intolerant to change and justifying inequality?

Who Stole Psychology?

I read recently that 93% of all psychologists are left leaning; that explains a lot about my profession. I wish that in the 1980's when I started studying psychology that I had been given the list of rules and regulations outlining the political views I was being signed up for, without my consent. But at that time, I wasn't aware of the "rules"--maybe they were different then, or maybe I just didn't get the memo. If I had, I would have just walked away.

Somehow, in my misguided youth, I was under the impression that in the field of psychology I would study the science of the mind and behavior. Instead, I found myself and other students put on trial for the correctness of our personalities and political beliefs. In my first program in New York, I was in a European style program that had students take a series of exams after their Masters and prior to going into the PHD program. I was in an externship with several of the students who were preparing for these doctoral exams and studied their behavior. They often kissed up to the professors early on and acted as if they held their views in high regard. I realized that my anti-authority attitude was going to get me nowhere and decided another program would be better, and it was, but now I had to contend with political beliefs that I neither believed nor wanted to hear about.

Many of my classes centered around women's rights and multiculturalism. I would find myself seething in class over the liberal views but at the same time, I was unable to speak. I did not see women as victims, but as autonomous beings who were responsible for their own behavior. I felt that affirmative action was unfair and that people should be judged on their merits. I sensed that if I spoke up, the career that I had put so many years into could be cut short; and I was right. A male student in the program made a politically incorrect remark; he was gone a week later. I kept my mouth shut for the most part, until it came time for my dissertation. One of my committee members held up my defense with one trivial change after another. One day, she told me that since I was a woman, I would have to do a dissertion that was better than any man's to prove myself. This, she said, was the way the world worked. (Apparently stabbing your own gender in the back was part of the way the world worked in her eyes.) With my most cold and threatening gaze, I told her that I would do the worst dissertation that any student in my program had ever done who received their degree. She never bothered me again.

After I got my PHD, did a postdoctoral internship and got licensed, I thought that life would change. I got into private practice and thought things would get better--and they did--for awhile. I was so happy to be out from under the thumb of the academic world that hate-filled patients with private fantasies to blow up a gas station and take the town down with them looked like a walk in the park. My patients' anger was direct; they did not beat around the bush and I could relate easily to their frustrations. Instead of doing therapy with violence-prone people, I started doing more evaluations. My first love has always been psychological testing and assessment. I worked for courts, attorneys and government agencies. But as time went by, the left-leaning views that I had so despised in the academic world started rearing their ugly heads again in my work world.

To start with, as psychologists, we are required to take Continuing Education each year. We are allowed to choose which programs to attend but you never know the politics until you end up in a city far from home listening to yet another "objective" speaker talk about battered women, abusive men and the ignorance of juries for not finding a three time murderer insane. One speaker, a forensic psychologist, actually had the audacity to berate an audience member when he pointed out that juries are afraid to find a murderer insane at the time of the crime for fear that the defendant would be hospitalized and released after a short time. Our "impartial" speaker became red-faced and bet the audience that these criminals are rarely released back into society -- to which most of us in the audience, all practicing psychologists in the real world, just laughed.

Don't get me wrong--I often learn a great deal from these seminars -- it's just that I did not go for doctrinization into a left leaning mode of thought. I often see these liberal views touted in the books and magazines I receive from my professional association magazine (American Psychological Association) or from other book presses. Here are some gems I received yesterday in the mail -- ads for the following books: Therapeutic Exercises for Victimized & Neglected Girls and Spouse Abuse: Assessing & Treating Battered Women, Batterers, & Their Children. In my APA Monitor magazine I was treated to an article on Enhancing diversity within APA. Yes, this sounds innocent enough but when you read the article, written by an "able-bodied white heterosexual male" (shame on you--how can you admit to that?) who chastises members of the APA for their lack of sensitivity to minorites, it becomes rather laughable--given their politics. When a stauch Republican or Libertarian becomes the president of the organization, maybe I'll listen to their ideas of diversity. Have you noticed that older white guys are always touting diversity while they sit on as president of this or that association? They have already established themselves and have little to lose with this position and they look really righteous.

In closing on this post, I just want to say that not all psychologists are cut from the same cloth. If the APA believes in diversity--then the 7% of us who are not left leaning liberals should be heard also and not assumed to engage in the same group think of most psychologists. There is room, after all, for those of us who believe that women are not victims, that gun control is unacceptable, that people should get by on merit and not on race or gender, and that the war in Iraq was not a mistake. The public believes that psychologists are "bleeding heart liberals" and this is a poor reputation to have. It may be acceptable within the confines of the APA and in the academic world but it carries no favor to our profession to many people in the public.

AN UPDATE: Some Volokh readers responding to my post on "Who Stole Psychology" don't seem to get my point.The wording used in the articles and books in psychology is obviously left-leaning in their tone--that is what I object to, not the fact that there are or aren't battered women, victimized girls etc. Even the APA (American Psychological Association's) president has an article on how to raise a son who doesn't create a sex scandal. Now, if you think that is not prejudiced, just imagine the reaction to an article on "how to raise a black child who isn't a drug addict." Would people defend that?

Wednesday, November 02, 2005

Mommy Knows Worst

I have a book review of James Lileks's new book, Mommy Knows Worst: Highlights from the Golden Age of Bad Parenting Advice up at TechCentral Station. Here is a highlight:

Most parents worry about the damage they may be inflicting on their children by following parenting advice touted by parenting guides, mental health professionals, school personnel and even talk show hosts. Even those uncouth parents who try to tune out the current fads of child discipline and advice are swayed by community mores, school rules and the jail time involved if they vary too much from the norm. But many of us wonder how much of this advice is not only unhelpful, but just plain wrong. How can we know what will be the outcome of time outs, drugging kids with Ritalin, withholding discipline or sending kids to Brat Camp? Perhaps in the future, we will be looking back, wondering why we followed the advice given by well-meaning ninnies when in fact, there were other methods that might have worked better. The parents in James Lileks' new book on bad parenting advice probably wondered the same thing...

Read the whole thing.
I really enjoyed watching blogger Michelle Malkin on the O'Reilly factor discussing her book, Unhinged: Exposing Liberals Gone Wild. She is one of the few guests who has managed to get a word in edgewise on his show. See the video of Michelle here. I have ordered her book and look forward to reading it.

The Truth About Domestic Violence

Here is a good article about the money being showered to domestic violence victims (only women, of course) via DesertLight Journal. Here in Knoxville where I live, there was a grant given for domestic violence to one of the leaders of the community and I saw him speaking about it with a family court judge on tv one day. They kept running stats about how only women were the recipients of domestic violence which I found quite frustrating, having dealt with many abused men in my career and personal life (no, I was not the abuser, these were male friends and acquaintances who had problems with other women). I faxed the tv network information about domestic violence statistics on how many men were abused and/or killed by women but got no response. I guess the million dollar grant they received meant more to them than telling the truth.

Tuesday, November 01, 2005

But Kids Never Lie

Here is an example of what can happen when media types like Oprah try to convince everyone that all adults are child molesters.

Please Help Support me for the American Heart Foundation Heart Walk

Ok, one last plea to ask for donations for the heart walk I am going on this Saturday, November 5th. Although I am just going to do (attempt) the one mile walk, the main purpose of the walk, of course, is to raise money for heart research and education. Heart disease is an equal opportunity killer of men and women and as we have seen with breast cancer, funds do seem to equal success in finding treatments. My donation page is here. If you would like to donate even one dollar, click on the paypal button and give that way--I will see that all funds get to the American Heart Association. Thanks to everyone who has given so far!

Google Searches

I've noticed other bloggers have posted some pretty funny search words that people use to find their blog. It is quite interesting to see how people find you; reading through the searches people have done to find my blog has led me to wonder whether these poor souls need a therapist or a clue. So far, the top searches to my site have been:

1) "Men afraid of having kids" --(This sounds like a woman searching to find out why her significant other does not want children--Shouldn't she just ask him?)

2) "What to do if you are ignored?"-- (If you have to consult the internet, your question is already answered).

3) "What does Oprah think about men persuing women" (Who the hell cares?) and finally;

4) "Why do most men don't go to college?" (Apparently this one needs to go ASAP).

If you have any funny searches to your blog--please add a comment!